Causality

55 yrs old Man – Allergy to pollen and fruit with pips

This Patient is one of my best practises due to his own open minded approach and very good understanding of combined jars principal and his allergy.

He was a well built and hard working (at home, his garden and also his job) who enjoyed cycling (only chose paths that he knew already).

The moment there was a plum or peach around, his neck swelled and turned red, tears started pouring from his eyes, his sinuses filling with mucus and sneezing heavily. Identical situation repeated in spring, when birch trees started to bloom.

Our conversation twisted around one point – around his “unhappy character” as he use to say.
He had difficulties saying No to people. If he did indeed say (or point out, more like)
No to someone, he would be troubled by this for quite a while.

He seemed very worried. Even his face had somehow weepy and troubled expression.

He extremely cared for his family, kids and grandchildren. I would say he was touchy or even oversensitive but would not express this.
His passion was to get the job well done. His colleagues did the opposite, but he was afraid
to cause any conflict so he held his feelings in.

Conflict itself was something he would not experience often. He use to say, that he gets on with people really well.
This was our “roadblock”. He was popular amongst people and got on with everyone nicely,
but only person he could not bear around was himself.

I’m always suspicious of people who say they never have conflict in life : ) There’s an explanation for it – the fact that I do not cause and search for conflict, or argue with people does not mean that I do not have trouble. It’s usually the other way around…

There are many things that can annoy us in everyday life. Unpleasant clerk at post office,
bad feedback from your boss, or late arrival of your partner. All this can affect us negatively.

The question is whether we try to settle our troubles or keep them deep down ourselves.

These conflicts build up inside us and after a while can cause damage on our body and soul.
We can have difficulties protecting ourselves, reasoning against or simply showing our opinion. Our own point of view is a natural thing that we are born with and have right to.

Acting unnaturally and suppressing our personality can cause damage.
Of course I’m talking about specific character here. There are moments in life were it is more useful not to deal with certain problems, etc.

This man pressed conflicts inside him. Troubled by everyday issues, he even had difficulties sleeping. While other people took second to solve certain problem, it would take him days
to get over it.

First of all we had to talk about the word Conflict. His idea of a conflict (gained from his family, as I later discovered) meant something very bad. He described the word as an argument / hate / evil thing / bad relationships with people which naturally meant something unreasonable to him.

During the therapy he discovered, that conflict does not develop somewhere around him but inside him. He learned to understand, that argument is one possible solution how to solve issues, but not the only one. Resolutions can be destructive but constructive too.

We simulated different situations and tried various responses to it – argument, silence, regret, fighting back or honest dialog (which by the way was one of his strong points as he is naturally calm and sensitive). He just needed boost of courage and to try something that he is not use to. But most of all, this man was in desperate need to start showing his feelings, which is very hard for people in his age and especially for man!

His body started its own reaction too… “You don’t want to show feelings? You want to store injustice and sorrow inside me? OK, well here you go, I will pay you back for this, wait and see.”

The whole case was fear of expressing his feelings and personality.
We talked about stuff that can cause conflict and why we are affected by them.

This is not very easy subject. We have gone deep down into topics like - dreams that did not come true, feeling useful in life or not deserving something. Of course we discovered some family roles that influenced him too. All this was very interesting, because he started to realise how certain fields that were suppressed (expressing himself and showing off) - actually effected him.

He explained how other people talked about their job well done, while he knew it wasn’t true.
He was very troubled by this. Or, for example, he thought it was excessive for his daughter age 25 to travel four continents in a year. He of course had great interest in traveling himself,
but not had the courage to actually go. If someone else was brave enough to go, he claimed him to be “extravagant”.

And this was exactly it. Courage to go, expressing himself, discovering things was exactly what he would love to do, but did not realise until today.

It was very nice to see his relieve. After a while his opinion has changed. He was saying
“I don’t care what people at work say about me, my conscience is clear” and he even got to the point of saying his opinion to colleagues!
He referred to mistakes he did in past and even talked about them on meeting in his job
– this was a 180 degree turnaround.

He then discussed travelling experiences with his daughter, and even started to think about making a trip with his wife to Dolomites.

He simply turned his life over.

I also concentrated, just marginally, about different kinds of his allergens. This however was not so important, but it was part of the missing puzzle we were building together.
Once the fruit is ripe, it is wise to take the advantage of its best qualities. The journey from flower-bud, to blossom, rapping slowly… all this has its own history, beauty and specific taste.
We even talked about these attributes, at his age of 55. And pollen? Rapping simply cannot be without it, so there were topics including his sexuality too.
To encourage all this, we tried homeopathics.

He did a lot of work with himself and some parts were not easy at all. Every change is acknowledged by people around us, so standing up to the reactions is sometimes hard.
Luckily he managed just fine.

He had 5 therapy sessions in six months and is now happy without allergy for 5 years.


35 yrs old Woman – Difficulties with getting pregnant

My patient was a woman, who unsuccessfully tried to get pregnant with her boyfriend for last
5 years.
Both of them passed many medical tests to discover that there is no problem from the health point of view (her PH was slightly sourer than usually, but this was not a serious issue).

During the therapy we discussed their life in the village, where they shared house with her boyfriend’s mother. His mother had quite an influence on her boyfriend, which she did not like very much.
Commuting to work 50 km´s every day wasn’t pleasant for her and she would much prefer to live in the city.
She was very happy at work and talked about how she would enjoy going out for a coffee or glass of wine with her colleagues. She also liked the city a lot and the fact that there are many cultural events going on, etc.
Her boyfriend was completely forgotten suddenly.
I asked her, whether she expressed her wishes to her boyfriend. She did many times,
but he was resistant for them to stay in the village house and care for his mother. Apparently
if they moved away, his single brother would move instead of them and this would make them loose the house.
He also did not want to leave his local friends so she resigned after a while and was “happy” with the situation.
I have to point out the fact that they were couple for 10 years.
This woman appealed very gentle, seemed to adapt easily, her voice sounded almost humbled
and had no trouble in accepting other people opinions.

First 3 therapies (3 months) we only talked about her. What she wished for as a child, young girl, in her puberty, what she dreams about now as a young woman and which oh her wishes did not come true.
Most of her dreams only stayed dreams unfortunately and she saw herself very negatively.
So I tried to search for positive points and must say we found quite a few. She started to act
as herself finally, without other people recommendations and ideas of her life.
When I met her after 3 months, it was completely different woman.
She was much more self confident and honest in her opinions and soul.
She started cycling and making trips regularly with her friends and was very enjoying it.
She even started playing in amateur theatre.
The topic of moving to town came up again, but her boyfriend felt the same about it. He was now very unhappy about her fun moments with friends and would not want to participate in any
of the activities with her.
Apparently she did not think about getting pregnant lately and have realised to solve her own issues first.
Then she admitted to have bought a two months trip to Indonesia for herself where she will travel with people she doesn’t know. She was convinced that this journey is important for her.
Her boyfriend isn’t happy about this trip. She accepted his attitude but feels that her decision is right, therefore she will do this (I was very happy to hear this, btw, because I could feel that she started concentrating on her own wishes).

She came after three months.
Amongst other things she said: “I met someone while travelling in Indonesia. We are quite close and get on very well. He is evidently interested in me.”
I asked: “And you?”
She said: “Me too.”
I asked: “What about your boyfriend?”
She said: “We are drawing apart.”
I asked: “He is drawing away from you?”
She said: “No, I’m drawing away from him.”
Then I said: “Good luck.”

And right in this unfinished (although finished really) sentence we’ve said good bye. Whatever her decision will come thru, it will rise from her hart, not mind. She did not need to hear my solution (I wasn’t planning to do that anyway). She knew, that the decision is hers only, and felt nice : )

One year later I received her wedding invitation with comment, that she is 2 months pregnant.

Would you like to know who is she marrying? I’m sure you can guess… : )

This story is about unhealthy self conscience, not liking and accepting ourselves.
First time I saw her she really was “sour” and far away from enjoying sweet life. She was dragged by life without trying to set the rules. There was a lot of fear behind it too. Driver without steering-wheel can crash any time, therefore it was easier for her to let other people drive the way instead, even though she was not able to influence the route.

Her body was same as her mind. Weak, full of fear, not relaxed and stiff. She was not opened
to anything new, her posture was poorly. How can such body let new life grow inside it?

Thank God – all is well now.

My next example will show how we can combine Ethicotherapy for example with Phytotherapy.

First of all a short description of Patients session with Phytotherapist:

Allergy – 35 yrs old woman
Subjective problems:
Allergy for pollens starting in February, watering and burning eyes, chronic cold
Normal blood pressure
Vessels, veins – varix on internal side or right leg, easily formed bruises
Joints, spine – stiffness of trapeze muscles, pain in cervical spine
Other complaints – migraine
Digestion – proclivity for congestion, flatulency, bad tolerance of greasy food
Sleeping habits – usually waking up between in the middle of the night (0 – 3am)
Eyes – tired, burning and stinging
Nails – brittle, fragile
Skin – red between eyebrows, impaired skin
Tiredness, escalation of problems in spring, dislike of wind
Emotional state – grumpy, anger
Causation – TCHM claims bad functioning of liver, gallbladder, insufficient drainage of gall into viscera – congestion, insufficient amount of gall for fat emulsification – flatulency, varix in liver trail, spare detoxication of organism – skin, cold, energy congestion of liver – migraines,
neck and shoulders stiffness, allergies
Recommendation of non greasy food (specifically for liver): fried, fat food, salamis, processed and fat cheese, milk, sweets, alcohol, chilled food in winter season – tropical fruit, raw vegetable, juices and fruit tea.
Consuming of following recommended:
carrot juice, black radish, leaf vegetable, olive oil
Individually prepared herbal tea for liver and bladder detoxication, choice of certain elixirs - Silybum marianum, extract of blackcurrant buds-sheepberry-rosemary, agaric, marigold, rose-hornbeam-fir

Ethicotherapy

We discussed the most common topic for allergics – body defence mechanism.
The woman was allergic for certain substances. Her body analysed them to be inimical
and reacted by watering and burning eyes, etc. There’s always need of protection from enemy
of course.

I’m convinced, that body is demonstrating our senses (unconsciousness more like). I started discussing question of enemies in her mind and how she compassionately protects herself against them.
Of course she has created the enemies herself, without realising it.

When we discussed solving issues in life her answer was – I try and avoid them if possible.
She claims to be non-conflict type and if faced with problem, she would be the wise one
to step aside.

That does not mean that she has no experience with conflicts. She would fight these battles (often trivial problems) inside her until the point that all issues have cumulated and her body started to react to them.

We worked our way through suppressed aggression (liver). My anger rises, because I cannot control what is building inside me. I can’t see (eyes) myself as human being, that can express
its feelings and opinions, or to stand out – if I feel like it – from the crowd. To all this we need protection, not to fear, fight and defend our rights (nails).
It is crucial to leave our fundamentals (congestion) when needed, learn to accept life with
all its changes that come along and be flexible (stiffness).
Most importantly, she needed to find love in herself and that she is unique and magnificent human being.

Routine thinking got her into troubles that caused Allergy and only she could change
this situation.
We discussed model roles in her family and how these people affected her own personality
and everyday life. It was crucial to create and set new role models that will form her health positively.

We gone true model situation, where I was playing her arrogant employer (I actually enjoyed this), she was representing herself but trying to stand for herself and fighting her rights.
It didn’t go to bad. After third try I had no chance of winning at all : )

And so she learned how to say no sometimes, thinking about herself, started exercising
and swimming (she always wanted to do that, but thought she did not have time; other people needs where more important). She simply started to think about stuff she deserved and would make her feel good.

She passed four therapy sessions every six weeks, where we of course discussed much more topics and analysed certain situations. There were more aspects to be considered but they detected themselves during our meetings. The more absurd these issues were, the more she learned to understand them until she realised, that this really is not the way to go (When? Now! And who? Me, who else!).

Next spring she was wonderful. No sign of allergy at all…